tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3500936220214961312.post8835300366512323625..comments2023-10-02T04:06:53.185-04:00Comments on Brass and Ivory: Life with MS and RA: Making Life DecisionsLisa Emrichhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10862232056342347990noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3500936220214961312.post-68460968793993795612010-09-18T21:47:41.635-04:002010-09-18T21:47:41.635-04:00WARNING: INCURABLE ROMANTIC AHEAD
My in laws were...WARNING: INCURABLE ROMANTIC AHEAD<br /><br />My in laws were devils. When I got cancer I could see a skip in their step. Sorry for them, I survived.<br />When I met my partner SHE was the sick one, ERs, surgeries, etc., she warned me day I met her. I gave it deep consideration and simply could not live with ME had I left her at that point for THAT reason. I thought I would be a caregiver my whole life. I could NOT leave the side of such a wonderful soul. But on that day of decision, it was about MY soul and who I wanted to be. I made the right decison. Been tough? Oh yeah, EVERY YEAR of 31 years. But I look in the mirror and see a person looking back whom I am proud of. We don't get to chose a lot in life, but we can chose who we are and how we live.Diane J Standifordhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11862850657925658079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3500936220214961312.post-80530902627398554682010-09-18T13:05:45.236-04:002010-09-18T13:05:45.236-04:00I agree with both of you. I'd be much more con...I agree with both of you. I'd be much more concerned about the new in-laws and extended family. <br /><br />Muffie, I love reading about your grandbaby visits. Sounds like a wonderful opportunity for all involved. I'm sorry that the sister of your SIL is one of those who doesn't get it. Hopefully being witness to what a wonderful thing this is will help to open her awareness.<br /><br />I have sorta the opposite situation. Rob's mother says that his and my relationship is our business. However, I've been expecting some "next steps" to occur for at the least the past 2 years. I finally tried to talk about this with her more recently but got nowhere. <br /><br />Rob's friends are equally non-invasive when it comes to expressing opinions or putting mild pressure on Rob to get on with it. I've become rather frustrated (and sad) with this situation and have been putting off making any big decisions about what MY next step should be.<br /><br />As a result, I think I pay more attention to discussions of relationships where one person lives with a serious chronic illness. One very nice thing about Rob is that he is amazingly supportive and accepting of my health challenges. He is willing to step up and help with physical things, even if he has to be told what to do or how to do it. (His mom trained him well in this regard.)Lisa Emrichhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10862232056342347990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3500936220214961312.post-66576903392632878162010-09-18T12:41:11.273-04:002010-09-18T12:41:11.273-04:00I ran into a similar situation... As I've writ...I ran into a similar situation... As I've written on my blog, my husband and I will be babysitting for my little grandbaby 1 or 2 days a week. My SIL's sister recently made a comment (I was not present) about the safety of leaving the baby with someone like me. Outsiders just don't get it.<br />For the person in question here -- I, too, would be more concerned about the new in-laws, but I'd leave the decision-making up to the couple.<br />Peace,<br />MuffMuffiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04542678482763101104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3500936220214961312.post-84654287806364627602010-09-18T11:33:20.916-04:002010-09-18T11:33:20.916-04:00If I were the couple I'd be more fearful of th...If I were the couple I'd be more fearful of the family than MSMissDazeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03016106662830199895noreply@blogger.com